by John L. Payne (Page 68 – 69) about Self-Appreciation
If there were nine thousand nine hundred and ninety-nine subjects upon which we could speak, and if you were to ask us which out of all these subjects was the most important, we would say to you, with an absolute knowing, without a shadow of doubt or the twinkling of a second thought, that self-appreciation is the most important topic of all. Self-appreciation is the key to your spiritual growth, to enlightenment, to humanity’s problems; it is the solution to everything that is considered a problem.
For many generations you have been taught that to appreciate oneself is to be haughty and arrogant and unfitting. You have been told to keep yourselves small and not to think too highly of yourselves, for you are unworthy of such adoration and recognition. We bring you a different message. We say that it is time for you to appreciate yourself and that, without self-appreciation, all other things that you are striving for will either elude you or remain a struggle.
As you learn to appreciate who you are and what you have to offer the world, all the qualities that you want to develop, such as patience, acceptance, love, compassion, caring, and strength, will be yours. As is true in everything, that which is within you is reflected outside of you. That which you feel manifests in your world. Therefore, if you want to develop love, patience, and compassion, it is love of self, patience with self, and compassion for self that first must be developed. “You can only give what you already have.” Does it not make complete sense to you when we say that? If you have but little love for yourself, then you will not be in a position to offer authentic love, i.e., acceptance, to another. You will offer a kind of ingratiation perhaps, telling yourself that you are loving and kind, but when you give love, there must be a two-way flow. The flow must come from an open heart, a heart that is also open to the receiver.
Many of you who focus on giving find it difficult to receive. Then, it is like using up the energy in a battery. The more you give, the more of your own energy you are giving away. When you are open to receive, then you become a conduit for the Universe, a channel for love. Pure Universal Love, the love of God, begins to flow through you. This love, this energy, is the source of all life, and as you become this channel, it feeds you, sustains you, keeps you in health and well-being, and allows abundance to flow freely into your life.
Self-appreciation is about saying: I accept myself exactly as I am. It is also about acknowledging your unique gifts. Your world is full of artists, healers, writers, great chefs, architects, teachers, and miracle makers who are yet to be discovered. They have not yet been discovered because you have not allowed yourself to shine. Within each of you is a highly creative, highly skilled being, just waiting to be discovered. Many of you catch glimpses of this in moments of inspiration, but then most of you immediately begin to compare yourself to others and tell yourself that their work or creation is of much more value than yours.
Self-appreciation is not about putting another down, or thinking you are better than another. It is about acknowledging the greater part of you, the part of yourself that is tapped into Universal knowledge and power and can create miracles. It is about acknowledging the truth of who you are. The truth of who you are is simple. You are a child of the divine, more than that even, you are the divine.
Somewhere along the line, many of you got the idea that you were here to prove yourself worthy of God or some other higher authority. This is not the case. You are here through the expression of your free will and you came forth into this plane of existence in order to create.
The Earth poses some unique challenges. It appears that there is much evidence suggesting that you are alone and not connected to the power of the Universe. But this is exactly why you chose to come here. It was a challenge that you were delighted to take. You are not here on probation; you will not be released from this place for good behaviour. You are not here waiting for the chance to go somewhere better. When your heart is filled with self-appreciation, it will govern what you draw to you. It will govern your experience of the world and how you relate to others. Then when you are fully self-appreciative, you will have the most delicious experience in the Universe. You will be physically focused, your heart will be fully open to the love of the Universe, and God’s love will stream through you, using you as a channel for all that is great. There is no greater experience than this one, to be physical and spiritual simultaneously. This is why your planet is so populated, for many, many souls are wanting this experience, and self-appreciation is the key.
When you look at the great teachers, how do you think they got to that position? How did the Buddha and the Christ get to that position? It was through self-appreciation. It is only through loving and accepting yourself that you open yourself to the love of God. For God can only give you that which you are prepared to give unto yourself. There is no higher truth than that.